Just sharing another vital lesson from Dr Maxwell Maltz, writing in his Psycho-Cybernetics classic back in the early sixties:

"Numerous patients have said to me something like the following:

"If you are talking about 'positive thinking, ''I ve tried that before, and it just doesn't work for me." However, a little questioning invariably brings out that these individuals employed positive thinking, or attempted to employ it, either on particular external circumstances or on some particular habit or character defect ("I will get that job," "I will be more calm and relaxed in the future." "This business venture will turn out right for me." And so on.)

But they never thought to change their thinking of the self that was to accomplish these things.

It is the folly of putting a patch of new material on an old' garment or of putting new wine into old bottles.

"Positive thinking" cannot be used effectively as a patch to the same old self- image. In fact, it is literally impossible to really think positively about a particular situation, as long as you hold a negative concept of self.

Numerous experiments have shown that, once the concept of self is changed, other things consistent with the new concept of self are accomplished easily' and without strain."