Saturday, March 21, 2009
HOW TO HANDLE CRITICISM: THE 5 FINGER HEART CHECK
Unless you lie down first, nobody should be in a position to flatten you and trample upon your spirits.
This "heart check" applies to children as well as to adults. Whenever anyone criticises you, first pause, and consider the following features before collapsing into a heap. They are "The 5 Rs" that lead to resolution.
First write down the criticism on a piece of paper and place it in the palm of your open hand. Then ask the following questions:
1) Is the criticism rational?
2) Is the criticism realistic?
3) is the criticism relevant?
4) Is the criticism reasonable?
5) Does the criticism deserve my respect?
For every "NO" answer, close one finger of your open hand. If eventually, all the answers are "NO" make a fist and crumple up the sheet of paper.
Now throw it into the trashcan, not in the brain!
[Original Source: Unknown; Secondary Source: David Lewis; adapted, crafted & formatted by Dilip Mukerjea. Excerpted from his book, 'Unleashing Genius with The World's Most Powerful Learning Systems'. All the images in this post are the intellectual property of Dilip Mukerjea.]